- Have a clear political objective and stick to it;
- Use all the force necessary, and
- Do not apologize for going in big if that is what it takes.
- Decisive force ends wars quickly and in the long run saves lives.”
These lessons gleaned from Vietnam to Panama guided Colin Powell for Desert Shield and Desert Storm and benefited all involved.
I listened to the audio book as I drove to work and I connected these lessons to our marriages.
In our marriages:
- Do we have a clear objective and are we sticking to it?
- Are we using all the resources necessary to achieve the objective?
- Are we living boldly or apologetically?
- Do we apply effort decisively to overcome obstacles and achieve the objective in order to save our spiritual, emotional, and physical energy for improving and advancing rather than being used up in prolonged guerrilla warfare?
What is your marriage objective? How about modeling Christ and the Bride?
How are you allocating your resources of time and energy? Are you making progress toward your objective?
Are you able to live boldly with your spouse, or are you living apologetically? Are you thriving or just surviving?
Are you dealing decisively with and overcoming obstacles keeping you from your objective or are you just hoping they will go away without anyone being offended not realizing the advancement this is preventing? Are you improving or just maintaining?
Do you have vision or are you wandering aimlessly? Marriages with vision backed by effort grow to great heights. Marriages wandering aimlessly struggle and often fail.
“Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.” Proverbs 29:18 KJV
God made us with the need for vision to grab onto, a goal to work toward to discipline and constrain our lives, a standard to use on all the choices of this life to simplify and direct our efforts.
Do you see the vision? Do you have the goal? Are you using the standard? Are you focused or aimless?
What can you do today to improve your marriage? I bet it’s something in line with achieving your vision.