Responsibility and Authority for Marriage

“This is why the Father loves me, because I lay down my life in order to take it back again.
No one is taking it from me; I lay it down of my own free will. I have the authority to lay it down, and I have the authority to take it back again. This is what my Father has commanded me.” John 10:17-18

God gave Jesus the command to lay his life down and take it up again. This command is both responsibility and authority.

When God gives responsibility, He also gives authority so the command can be achieved.

So consider what He says on marriage:

“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and will be joined to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.
This mystery is great – but I am actually speaking with reference to Christ and the church.
Nevertheless, each one of you must also love his own wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” Ephesians 5:31-33

God gives the command–responsibility and authority–for husbands and wives to leave and cleavebecoming one, and for husbands to love their wives and wives to respect their husbands.

The corrupt flesh, the world,  and the enemy are not going to help.

Selfishness, pride, lust, idolatry, and those who steal, kill, and destroy do not help your marriage.

They will attack your responsibility and/or authority to leave-and-cleave and/or to love-and-respect.

Focus on God as your source and example who defines your responsibilities and provides the authority to achieve oneness, love, and respect.

And–metaphorically–cut off at the knees anything that gets in the way of holy and righteous oneness, love, and respect! Leave it in your wake to die so you can live at a higher level!

Because the better we do in marriage the more we will understand the relationship between Father God, Jesus, and the Church–His Bride.

Jesus lived and laid His life down to rescue us, and rose again to prepare a place for us, fulfilling the Father’s command. We are going to spend eternity with the Father and Jesus (and the Holy Spirit), doing and enjoying the things He has planned.

Yes, relationships with others may have to suffer and even die in order for your marriage to achieve oneness, love, and respect. God knows–read Matthew 10. This life is going to have challenges in relationships. Your boundaries need fixing and maintaining. If you cannot do it for your marriage, you will not be able to do it for your relationship with God.

Are you letting others get in the way of God’s best for your marriage? If so, stop it! Fix and maintain good boundaries!

Are you living God’s command for oneness, love, and respect in your marriage? Make progress so tomorrow can and will be better than today. .


How Theism Affects Your Marriage

What you believe boils down into one of two categories: either God created everything or everything spontaneously came into existence. Theism or atheism. Creation or evolution. Your choice of belief will impact your marriage, for better or for worse. Here is one of two posts examining this issue:

How Theism Affects Your Marriage

The all-knowing, all-powerful and all-present Being, aka God, desired something a long time ago which motivated Him to come up with a plan. He executed the plan and thus we have the dimensions, energy, mass, the universe, galaxies, our solar system, Earth, plants, animals, and humans.

Some of His angels were not thrilled the future will involve this new “mankind” being raised above them. So they rebelled against God and the concept of sin became a practiced reality. They passed it to Eve, to Adam and we have the fallen nature to this day.

All-knowing God planned for this to happen and called Jesus the “Lamb slain from the foundation of the world“, meaning before creating the world God planned to have to woo us and purify us from sin with His offer of salvation and grace through Jesus’ death and resurrection to get us on to building character. And He gave us marriage as the training ground to build character.

Genesis 2:23-25 records God’s establishment of perfect marriage, Ephesians 5:31-32 identifies marriage as an analogy between Jesus Christ and the Church, and Revelation 19:7-9, a glimpse of the future, rejoices that the marriage of the Lamb (Jesus) has come.

How does this affect your marriage?

First it means there is a God you are answerable to. He has given you the Bible to help you understand who He is, who you are, how He wants you to relate to Him, and how He wants you to live.

Second it means other people are answerable to God. You are a child of God; your spouse is a child of God. How then shall you treat other people, and especially your spouse?

One day you will stand before God and hear Him ask, “How did you treat My child, your spouse?” He will open the books and read your deeds. Make your deeds good so He will say, “Well done, My good and faithful servant, enter into the joy of your Lord.”

Third it means your marriage with your spouse is practice for marriage with Jesus. How then shall you live? Focus on making your character like His. You have a spouse to practice on. Get to it!

Theism affects your marriage by providing a standard and goal. A very high standard, and an astonishing goal. Theism provides the basis for logic, law, ethics, and morals, for theism saying there is One higher than us Who created everything with a purpose and plan to Whom I must answer.