What makes a man a real, true, complete man? Answer: Devoted obedience to God’s heart.
Consider the man who was:
- son of a powerful,
- respected in his youth
- chosen by God to save the people from their enemies
- chosen as king by the people with approval from the religious authority
- given a new heart by God
- operated in the prophetic gifting
- served by a group of men sent by God
- victorious in battle
Yet for all this he lacked full obedience to God and devotion to God’s heart. So God told King Saul that the kingdom would pass to another (1 Samuel 9-13).
Relating this to marriage, every man is king in his home. To be truly successful in marriage a man must obey God and seek God’s heart.
It’s not enough to have rich parents, have a great past, be chosen by God, be chosen for leadership by people and even religious authorities, be given a new heart by God, operate in spiritual gifts, have God-given followers, and be successful in your endeavors.
Not only is it not enough, it is not even necessary.
What is necessary is you must obey God and seek His heart.
Obeying God and finding God’s heart transforms a man’s desires, attitudes, and viewpoints, and increasingly conforms his heart to God’s heart. This is key to a successful marriage.
It teaches and motivates a man to love his wife as Christ loves the Church: laying down his life for her, washing her with the Word of God that she would be transformed into the real, true, complete woman God desires her to be and enabling them to increasingly unify their lives, to become the one flesh God designed marriage to be.
Of course she is also responsible to connect with God’s heart, but that’s another story.
Real men obey God and seek His heart, and are transformed in the process with one result being outstanding marriages.
- Part-Time Obedience is Unacceptable (menofredemption.wordpress.com)